Stained by Puberty – A Poem

Entering into a world so warm and mild

I remember running around naked as a child

Getting sand in my butt as I played out in the wild

Waving at my parents who waved back while they smiled

I really love and cherish memories like this

They are kept in my heart, never to dismiss

Carefree moments on the beach in pure bliss

Yes those were the summers I’m really gonna miss

It’s a moment in time that I cannot restore

Cause my once pure young body is not pure anymore

Something is not the same as before

I can sense it in my whole being right down to my core

I’m no longer the same in society’s eyes

Cause when puberty blossoms, innocence dies

We can curse and deny it, tell ourselves it’s just lies

But a developing body always comes with a prize

I can see it in the way they look at my frame

I can hear it in the tone that they catcall my name

I can feel it in the way they’re inflicting their shame

That the way I am perceived is no longer the same

Did I consent to this sexualisation

Just by being one of the universe’s many creations?

I don’t want to be viewed through a lense of perversion

To be honest it makes me feel distaste and aversion

It’s like we’re being labeled and trapped in cages

This is our stories and WE should be writing the pages

Our bodies should be free from these projections at all ages

Cause we’re all children of earth, just at different stages

How awesome would it be to be naked one more time

Without it having to be seen as promiscuity or crime

Enjoying the sun on my body – an awesome sensation

Well, maybe in my next reincarnation 👶🏼

– Jeanett Ljostveit

A better way to be body positive!

Yes, I do actually believe that you can do “body positivity” in a not-so-positive way. But it does not have to be like that. Let me show you!

As I talked about a little in my previous blog post, the extreme focus on looks in today’s society is damaging to all of us. The body positive movement going on right now is awesome and much needed to repair (or at least begin to repair) the damaged body images of the worlds media influenced population aka everyone. But we have to do this in a way that does not alienate or degrade people with other body types than our own.

Let me give you some examples of what I mean is the wrong way to be “body positive” (if we can even call it that):

I understand where the people that post things like this are coming from. They are probably sick and tired of their bodies not being as respected and celebrated as people with slimer bodies traditionally has been. Or maybe they just want to show that their proud of their curvy bodies and does not think much more about what they are posting. I understand that people are angry. I am too. We should be.

But we can’t direct the anger we have towards society’s unattainable beauty standards towards the people that have the type of body portrayed as more ideal in the mainstream media. It is just as ok to have a smaller figure that is is to have a large figure. We all suffer under the same strict beauty regime and we are better of fighting to change society’s attitude at large than fighting each other. It’s more than ok to express pride and love towards your own body type. It’s not ok to do it at expense of other people feeling good about themselves. There is nothing body positive in that.

A better and more inclusive way to be body positive or create attention around body image could be like this:

It’s also ok to celebrate YOUR body’s specific traits, as long as you don’t talk shit about other bodies in the process.

All bodies are beautiful, and all bodies deserves to be accepted. My body is ok, so are everyone else’s bodies. The diversity in bodies existing in the world should be celebrated. Luckily I see that this is the direction we are heading in. It makes me happy to see what the past couple of years has brought in terms of representing diversity; in the model industry, social media and in the public at large. It gives me hope for a future that can hold space and acceptance for all of us ❤

*Images and Illustrations are created by me, but are mostly based on quotes written by others*