A better way to be body positive!

Yes, I do actually believe that you can do “body positivity” in a not-so-positive way. But it does not have to be like that. Let me show you!

As I talked about a little in my previous blog post, the extreme focus on looks in today’s society is damaging to all of us. The body positive movement going on right now is awesome and much needed to repair (or at least begin to repair) the damaged body images of the worlds media influenced population aka everyone. But we have to do this in a way that does not alienate or degrade people with other body types than our own.

Let me give you some examples of what I mean is the wrong way to be “body positive” (if we can even call it that):

I understand where the people that post things like this are coming from. They are probably sick and tired of their bodies not being as respected and celebrated as people with slimer bodies traditionally has been. Or maybe they just want to show that their proud of their curvy bodies and does not think much more about what they are posting. I understand that people are angry. I am too. We should be.

But we can’t direct the anger we have towards society’s unattainable beauty standards towards the people that have the type of body portrayed as more ideal in the mainstream media. It is just as ok to have a smaller figure that is is to have a large figure. We all suffer under the same strict beauty regime and we are better of fighting to change society’s attitude at large than fighting each other. It’s more than ok to express pride and love towards your own body type. It’s not ok to do it at expense of other people feeling good about themselves. There is nothing body positive in that.

A better and more inclusive way to be body positive or create attention around body image could be like this:

It’s also ok to celebrate YOUR body’s specific traits, as long as you don’t talk shit about other bodies in the process.

All bodies are beautiful, and all bodies deserves to be accepted. My body is ok, so are everyone else’s bodies. The diversity in bodies existing in the world should be celebrated. Luckily I see that this is the direction we are heading in. It makes me happy to see what the past couple of years has brought in terms of representing diversity; in the model industry, social media and in the public at large. It gives me hope for a future that can hold space and acceptance for all of us ❤

*Images and Illustrations are created by me, but are mostly based on quotes written by others*

10 thoughts on “A better way to be body positive!

  1. I agree so much, it’s important to keep moving forward and never make anybody feel like less of a person because of the way they look, even if you don’t like their look. I’d like to add that it’s also important to promote getting healthier if your body is at an unhealthy weight, but to do so in a way that doesn’t degrade their dignity. I’m tired of being treated like a second-class citizen because I’m a bit fat. I’m human like everyone else and I deserve the same respect and opportunities afforded to everyone else, and so does anyone who’s body does not match societies standards.

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    • That is a good point ❤️ it’s important to be healthy, but even if somebody’s body might not be at a healthy weight, it’s not ok to shame them for it. And I know you agree with me on that. I totally agree that you should never feel «less than» or like a second-class citizen for having a larger body. You are valuable, and deserve to be respected ❤️ hugs


  2. To me, what matters is whether or not you’re happy and healthy.
    I don’t give a shit how someone looks. As long as they are happy and healthy, that’s what matters.
    I’ve had years of struggling with both undereating and overeating and during the time I looked the slimmest and in my eyes, the most attractive was also the time I felt the worst about myself. Now I’m fat, which isn’t a bad word to me (it’s just a word), but at least I’m not struggling. You make a great point with your post.
    Hope you’re well ♥

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  3. This is a wonderful post! You raise some very important points to keep in mind about how we think of ourselves and how we talk about our bodies. ❤️ I’ve always struggled with finding things I don’t like about myself and I do think that most of us always will! The important thing is to focus on the positives and be uplifting of each other.

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  4. Amen! Loving and accepting unconditionally doesn’t cast shade on someone else but can celebrate who we are and embrace without judgment: Us full, phat, tall, short, tiny, big-boned, thin, muscular, peanut butter, beige, pink, chocolate, caramel, honey, infinite sizes, shapes and expressions of us, simply being who we are. Us breath. Us awareness. Us movement in infinite connections simply expressing the beauty of who we are.

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